Every one has their "ideal" person they'd like to be with when asked what kind of person they're attracted to. It's realistic to think we're not all going to find a person with every single trait we ask for in a significant other. Most of us accept that. Somewhere during the relationship the differences we have with that person can either make it, or break it. Even though we're accepting of the fact that that person differs from us in certain aspects, it doesn't mean when things get sour that they need to be "fixed". That's when we get conversations like "You need to be more like this.." and "Why can't you be like.." or "You need to learn to be.." etc. That's when we get annoyed and think that if he/she was more or less like this and that, that everything would be better. The problem isn't in the differences, it's actually in the thought that we want them to be more like ourselves.
We need to focus on each others strengths instead of trying to mould over the weaknesses. That's what we have each other for. To be strong where they are weak. We accept the person that they are, we encourage her/him to be the best them. That doesn't mean trying to make them be the best you. Don't make her wear Jordan's if she doesn't want to. Don't be upset that he's forgetful. Let her wear what she wants. Be the person that reminds him to check if he has everything he needs before he leaves the house. Shoes need a left and right. We don't wear the left shoe on our right foot. Imagine we're the left shoe and they're the right. Put yourselves on the right feet and be the perfect pair. That is what makes all the difference.
If you and I are the exact same.. the one of us isn't necessary. - God is Love
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